Previously, I was going to focus on another topic but something more important came to the forefront. The discussion of boundaries is not only relevant but it is definitely something that has been set in motion in my life by GOD and maybe you as well.
At this time, many people my age are courting, engaged or married. So many people are seeking to be loved and wanted by someone else. Also due to social media, that "need" seems to have increased in our society. I've discussed before the importance of marriage and singleness which are both blessings from GOD. As some of us enter the journey of courtship, we have to make sure that GOD remains the center of our relationships. Otherwise, we will allow any and everything to enter into those relationships and cause them to become corrupt. So we must have boundaries!
The definition of boundaries or boundary means a point or limit that indicates where two things are different or limits that define acceptable behaviors. When we set boundaries we are letting each other know what is acceptable and what is not. What we are willing to do and not do. When boundaries are set within a relationship, its important that those boundaries are respected. If you are with someone who continues to pressure you to do certain things after those boundaries have been set, that person does NOT respect you. I will say it again, that person does NOT respect you. I suggest you re-think that person's position in your life.
Boundaries are set so they will know how you expect to be treated and to make sure you both are doing things that honor GOD without feeling the pressure of having to please the other person in ways that would compromise your integrity, dignity and character. Having a healthy relationship is the goal!
Boundaries allow us to grow closer and really learn how to communicate without being blinded by the physical. The physical things will never sustain your relationship. We cannot expect GOD to bless our wrongdoing. How wrong is it to even consider and expect GOD to do that. Remember, that no one can love or respect you if they do not love and respect themselves and fear the Lord.
Once those boundaries are set you both should remain faithful to each other and to GOD. You get to learn and understand each others' needs. To communicate but also listen to each other. This will help stop unrealistic expectations from slipping into your relationship. By keeping GOD at the center of your relationship and setting those boundaries, what a difference you will see in your relationship. The honesty, the trust, the faithfulness, the freedom to truly be yourself and to be loved for who you are and what you bring to the table and not for what you can give physically. That is TRUE INTIMACY!
Hope you have an awesome week! I can't believe its already August but GOD remains sovereign and loving each and everyday.
Love you!
